Last night I took Morgan to the parent/student orientation for her Junior High School. I really cannot believe that she is going to be in high school already! At the school I kept thinking, I am not old enough to have a kid in high school! it is also kind of weird to think that while I have my oldest starting high school my baby will be starting kindergarten!
When we first got there we were walking down the hall and there was a couple standing there with their son. I said hello I am L___ Morgan's mom, and she said hi I am C, T mom.......my heart was in my throat! this is the boy who was bullying Morgan for the last couple of weeks. Can we say AWKWARD!!!
She proceeded to tell me how Monday was an awful day for everyone involved. I said yes it sure was. She said yes it was a really hard day. I said the worst part was finding out that she had been going through this for a couple of weeks all alone and had not told anyone! She said yah I was away for a couple of weeks and I guess he thought he get away with things and now that I am home we are getting back on track. I said oh. Then I said, you know what made it all harder is that personally as a family we are going through a lot right now with her dad being sick and down on the Coast for testing. We have been going through so much and there is never a good time for stuff like this but right now has been brutal. She said oh yah. And that was that. I was a little more than surprised that she didn't once say I am so sorry for what my son said to your daughter.......I kind of thought she should have! I know that if it was my child I would have said that I was sorry for the pain my child had caused.
I had prayed for them and Morgan and I forgave them. So now I have to walk it out. Forgiving someone means not waiting for an apology I think. Being able to let it go!
I know that in my life I certainly have had to forgive a lot of people. Some of them took years to walk out fully! From teachers, friends, family members and yes pastor's even people hurt people, I know I have hurt others too!
The best teaching I ever heard on forgiveness was from John Arnott. He said you have to choose either mercy or justice, you can't have both. What do you want from others? do you want to get what you truly deserve? or do you want mercy? I certainly want mercy and that is what we received from Jesus! so how can I demand mercy for myself and then ask for justice for those who have hurt me or my children? you can't! So I choose mercy.
update on J: no final word yet, he is having an MRI sometime today and will be released from the hospital tomorrow I believe. If he doesn't have to stay down there to have treatments then he will be driving back home on Saturday. If his back is better! it is quite sore still from the spinal tap. EDITED.....J said he has to stay till next week......boohoo:(
and I am having a hard time with my server, my internet connection is disconnecting over and over again, especially when I am trying to leave comments. I don't know if is has to do with being out in the country our not, but I am very frustrated with it! so I am reading your blogs but having a really hard time leaving comments!