freedom

So we survived a 13 year olds birthday party.........phew........ I am always so glad when they are OVER!!! 2 down and 2 more to go! the girls were all really good and had a lot of fun bowling! even I did! I bowled my best game ever 172....we bowled 5 pin. J struggled a bit with his breath, he seems so short of breath all the time and a friend who is a nurse said that is not a normal side effect of the meds he is on, so Monday morning we are going to call the Neurologist in Vancouver to let them know.

Today is such a relaxing day..... I am enjoying reading blogs drinking coffee and sleeping in till 12 was heavenly! Tomorrow we are going to my cousin's new home to help them unpack and I am so excited to have her moving close to me....I think it is about 45 minutes away! she is also great with my girls and is going to help me with them when J goes to the Coast next month for his doctor appt's.

I am not sure if some of you read my last post or the comments that followed but I had a comment from an "anonymous" about what happened. Obviously we are all entitled to our opinions and I am somewhat opinionated myself and have strong view points about immunizations and such. I hope to come across to others though as positive and not mean or arrogant in my choice of words. Thank goodness we live in a free country with free speech and freedom of religion........as citizens and human beings I think some of us forget that we still can choose our words more carefully.

We have free will and can choose to be uplifting and helpful or negative and spiteful. All freedoms, all choices. I think it is sad when people choose to be negative and spiteful but I am strong enough in myself and who I am not to let it effect me. I will write what I want to write and people can read and think and comment whatever they want. Fact is we feel terrible what happened to our daughter, it could have been a lot worse, believe me we have gone through every possible scenario in our minds. We live in a rural place. When we first moved here we were really anal about their comings and goings and as time has gone on we have relaxed more and apparently that was not a good thing. Not to say this would happen again cuz it was a tough lesson for the girls and J and I to learn but I know we are smart enough to have learned it. It will not be repeated. Not that. However I am not so ignorant to think that other mistakes will not happen and scary things will still happen. I can only continue to hope and pray that God is watching and helping us along the way. We also can't live in fear every moment they are outside or we will go insane. The reality of them being attacked by a wild animal that live here, and who were here first, is a possibilty.......BUT.....the possibility of being in a car accident is greater and the statistics show we should NOT live in fear. So I choose not too. More observant and calling back and forth to our neighbor when the children and walking back and forth yes, but afraid no.

We all make mistakes but lets try to help each other out and not be hurtful and insensitive to someone else's pain!

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have seen alot more negative and unecessary comments on blogs lately. It is one thing to have a diffrent opinion than some one else, but to say things that are judgemental just because, is uncalled for.
It is like you said EVERYONE makes mistakes. We should try to encourage one another, not be there to tear them down further when they already feel bad.
I 'm glad you are having a better day today:)

Anonymous said...

I have seen alot more negative and unecessary comments on blogs lately. It is one thing to have a diffrent opinion than some one else, but to say things that are judgemental just because, is uncalled for.
It is like you said EVERYONE makes mistakes. We should try to encourage one another, not be there to tear them down further when they already feel bad.
I 'm glad you are having a better day today:)

Anonymous said...

uh go ahead and delete this and the last message. Sorry I accidently posted twice

Dawn said...

This is the third post I've read today about less than encouraging anonymous comments. I don't get it! Anonymity is the coward's way out when you say something you don't want someone to know you said.

To me, it was your neighbor who was at fault anyway - I have little neighbor girls here all the time and their mom has no clue where they are most of the time. I feel like I'm keeping them safe!

As for unkind comments, there is a person out there who is so against Teen Challenge for some reason that every time Kev or I mention it in our story, she comes on and asks everyone to check out her web site so you can see how terrible Teen Challenge is. It's really sad. She then deletes our comments back to her.

As for bowling - I haven't been in YEARS, and neither has my husband. But tonight he's up there rolling balls down the lane, hopefully not in the gutter, with the men's ministries group. Hope they have fun. I'm enjoying solitude after a very rainy (welcomed) day.

Have a great week!

Morning Glory said...

Lala, I'm really happy to read that you've had such a wonderful day today. You so deserve it after all the adjustments, illness and trauma you and your lovely family have gone through. Enjoy every moment of it.

I'd delete all those ugly anonymous comments so that person doesn't have the satisfaction of knowing people are reading their unkind words. I don't understand the need to tear down, rather than lift up. If they disagree or feel critical, they need to just move on.

You can also restrict your blog from anonymous commenters, if you choose.

Ruth said...

love you lala.
you are a true blessing. you have an incredible heart.

MugwumpMom said...

Glad today was a better day. Well said on the comments thing, BTW. Posting anonymous comments that are not unlifting reminds me of protestors who wear balaclava's....if they are so sure of what they believe and stand for then show your face.
PS could you send me a personal email with your phone, cell, etc ??

Lala's world said...

thank you for all the support! I do not however blame my neighbor or anyone really. The girls were where they have been told not to be and we should have known exactly for sure where she was! just one of those things that you hope never happens!

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Nadine said...

Lala I'm so sorry I never read the comments before mine. I just usually just post a comment. I've been reading your blog for a while now and have become fond of you and your family. I appreciate the honesty in which you tell your stories.

I'm so glad your little girl is safe...it's a terrible thing you went through on top of everything else that's on your plate. I hope that you are not discouraged and continue to blog what's on your heart.

Art said...

I read the original post but didn't have time to comment. I just said a little prayer of thanks. I thought that was the point of your post - thankfulness that your child is OK - and I was happy to share in that. I don't see why anyone would want to criticize you on a post like this with these negative anonymous comments.

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Heidi said...

Hi Lala - I'm so glad, for one, that your Faith is safe again and recovered from her ordeal; how frightened she must have been too!! My first thoughts about the anonymous comments were exactly what everyone has been mentioning: if one feels so strongly about an issue and chooses to voice their judgments on others, WHY would you hide your identity ?? Don't feel badly about anything, you are an amazingly strong and loving mother who goes to any lengths to protect and take care of her family. I always look forward to reading your posts....you keep it up girl!
On that note, I'd like to share with you any of my beauty tips you'd like to know/learn about, including the microdermabrasion system. I'll post it under your recent comment if you like. Or I could email you, whichever you're most comfortable with. Have another relaxing day my friend!

Shash said...

My computer keeps crashing - I've tried to comment 3 times already...

AUGH!

I can't believe M's going to be 13!!!! That's just crazy, I remember when she was born!!!

Don't worry about the treats of the stranger behind the finger pointing comments. What kind of human being threatens someone via a blog!!!

holli said...

I've got the answer to this - don't allow anonymous comments on your blog!