Since we have moved so far away this summer, far from family and friends. I have had a lot of time to think about friends and some of my friendships. I have a lot of friends but I haven't had a best friend for awhile now. I miss having a best friend. The last best friend I had hurt me deeply..... Ruth's question to me made me think of her and that situation. Sometimes you forgive but you remember the pain for awhile and I wonder if that hurt makes me withdraw from letting another friend get too close again.
Growing up we were taught not to be too exclusive and to be friends with everybody. I think Shash and I are pretty good at that. We both seem to have a lot of friends. J is my bestest best friend. My mom and dad are the bestest of friends too. I think that is important! you need to LIKE your spouse!! Still J cannot replace that girl to girl friendship that us women desire. I can't talk to him about my face breaking out.....just something I don't like to get into with him! :) I can't talk to him about what the latest styles are or crafting......he just doesn't care.
I have been making some really good friends up here. 3 that I would consider pretty close.....M, S and S. They are great women and so different from each other and all make me feel ...... well... they make me thankful to have them in my life. They seem to like me and hey that feels good! I once had a friend tell me that they loved me but they didn't like being around me too much at one time. YIKES! I wondered why they told me that and what was there about me that they didn't like? Statements like that are great door openers for pity parties and self examination. Not that self examination is wrong but sometimes it is the other person's issues.... not yours!
Not everyone is going to get along with everyone! there has been at least 1 person at every work place that I have been in that I just didn't click with....they rubbed me the wrong way or I thought their voice was annoying or just them as a whole was annoying to me! have to admit that I am not perfect and have/do judge(d) others too. People who tend to be negative are not ones I choose to hang around with. I have met plenty of women who seem to want to be good friends but I couldn't handle the negativity. I also have a hard time telling people what I really think sometimes! well not in every situation I think I come across as opinionated hehe to some people! J gets to hear it all..... and he still loves me!
So what makes a good friend? what do you look for in a friend? Do you have a best friend?