duty mom = cleaner ? a tale of a preschool rant

Yesterday I was the "duty mom" at Faith's preschool. I wasn't sure she would be so happy to have me there all morning as she usually doesn't even let me close to the front door.

" I tan do it by myself" said with hands on hips and a scowl on her face is the usual stance she takes!

She was good with it though much to my relief...............however............... I was completely shocked when the other duty mom told me that we were on "cleaning" duty..............like what???? yup cleaning duty! I was actually mad! then I was like oh my why does this make me angry? am I like a total snob or something?? but no I think it was ligit as.......cleaning toilets at the preschool is NOT something I want to be doing.............. like ever!!! they had rubber gloves but I didn't want to put them on! I am not much of a germophob but the thought of wearing gloves that others hands had been in............sweating..........um ya couldn't do it! plus my exima is really bad right now on my hands and I literally have open sores................hahaha it's just a flesh wound....from Monty Pithon....boy am I easily distracted or what....

I finally said something to the other teacher...........well she was the teacher and has been demoted!! I'll get to that in a sec......and she said it is because it is part of the leisure society....there are no janitors.......I said I would be happy to pay an extra $5-10/month to have someone clean it!!! when I go in to the classroom I want to be with my child watching the kids and playing with them and assisting the teacher............not mopping the floors, vacuuming, and cleaning the bathrooms!!!...........she understood but said some parents couldn't afford to pay anymore...........so I guess that is that..........just ewwwwwwww yuck.........and I will have to bring my own rubber gloves from now on.....which will be tomorrow!!

So the teacher I was talking too got demoted because the majority of the parents felt that there was not enough structure at the PRESCHOOL............huh?.......... the other mom that was there yesterday told me that she was ready to pull her 3 year old son out because they felt he needed more structure and learning time.........to her I just politely smiled and said oh I see..........I didn't realize there was a COO going on? I just dropped Faith off and picked her up and she seemed really happy to be going so that was good enough for me!!..... talking to the other teacher she told me I was definitely in the minority and she agrees with me hence being demoted! I told her I thought it was ridiculous! kids go to school for 13 years plus preschool years and then hopefully college/university.........preschool should be fun and play and more FUN!! I find so many parents get caught up in how early their kids can spell their name......maybe it is just because I have had 4 kids or maybe I am old school............but eventually they all learn it! at grade 4 they all about level out.....meaning the kids that were ahead slow down a bit and the kids that are behind catch up......this is a proven FACT!!! ask your teacher!! at least it is in Canada! but to push kids to learn so much in preschool age is silly.........let them be kids.....let them play and be social and learn to play with other kids!! after all social skills are VERY important in life!!! more important than whether your child could print their name at 2 or at 5!!! yeesh!

Kids grow up so fast.....I remember when Morgan went to preschool.....she was 3.........now she is 12 1/2 with hormone factors and almost as tall as me.........and all I did was blink!


k that is my rant of the day.............this cleaning mom.....has to clean her own house now that the preschool is all sparkly!!!

16 comments:

MugwumpMom said...

That's crazy..as if the preschool fees aren't high enough?

Lala's world said...

actually I guess I should have clarified that the fees are REALLY cheap......I only paid $145 for 2 mornings a week @ 2.5 hours/morning....from Sept- Dec!! that is the cheapest preschool fees I have EVER paid....now I know why!!

mom of 2 said...

ok, cleaning preschool toilets is just YUCKY!!!!

I agree on the pushing the kids academically when they are so young. Parents also need to remember that most children cannot physically (as in haven't developed the motor skills to do that yet) even hold a pencil correctly at 3 or 4 years old, much less spell their name!! I'm in total agreement with you that kids need to have fun. I was glad my kids were getting things like the social experience of getting along with others and learning how to behave in a classroom in preschool. I wasn't so much worried about the academics of it...because you said it...they're gonna be in school for the next 13+ years...why push them at 4??? Ok, my rant is done too!! lol

Hope you have a great day...don't work too hard!

Kristen said...

I completely and utterly agree with you on both the "duty" you had AND about the ridiculousness of adding more "structure" to preschool. First off: If I had classroom duty at my daughter's preschool, I would be expecting to help in the classroom with activities, play time, whatever....not cleaning toilets. I don't think that's snobbery at all....I would have been like, "WHAT?!"

As far as demoting a teacher for not providing enough structure...unbelievable. People seem to forget that there's only a few years in this life where we are able to just freely enjoy life and that is when we are kids. Give 'em a break. That's not to say that there shouldn't be some structure and learning; but there should definitely be plenty of time for fun and play. Good grief.

Morning Glory said...

Ugh! I'm with you on the yucky rubber gloves! And the old school idea. Little ones just don't get to stay little very long, do they?

cara said...

i can always tell it's going to be a rant when i scan and see lots of !!! and ... cracks me up. always fun to read. not exactly sure on where i stand on the whole pre-school issue, but do know i would have issues with being called in to clean and also being kept out of the loop when the other parents forced a teacher to be deomoted. that's just not cool. it sounds like someone, somewhere is making decisions (that parents should clean and the teacher getting demoted) and maybe you should go talk to them.

Yellow Mama said...

If the parents really want structure...give the preschool kids some gloves and a toilet brush and let them have a little fun in the bathrooms cleaning.

redheads said...

I think that parents all need to become more involved in there childrens education. I have worked in centers and its true parents seem to want you to teach their kids stuff so that they don't have to.

I do child care from my house and there are days when all we do is play house or hotwheels, and bake fun stuff. I let parents know how they are doing and I also make sure they have healthy food to eat...with the occasional treats. They are learning more life skills then anything, and we love it.

Now with your daycare center, that is cheap for care but cheap doesn't have to mean that the kids are getting the raw end of the stick either. I think if there are making it a facility where parents are asked to help in doing things then parents should be informed when they are registering their children. I wouldn't want to be cleaning unless I knew it in advance. I would want to be helping in the room with my child as you were also expecting.

Kids are only kids once, I think we need to let them enjoy that time so they don't get stressed out like it seems most adults have become.

Max said...

I agree with Redheads, but then again, she IS my wife. ;-)

mommaobrienx7 said...

Yeah those gloves would have grossed me out too!

My children have all went to preschool, but like you I didn't send them for academics. I sent them to play and have fun with their peers and learn to get along with others. Not for academics. I can't believe they demoted the teacher for that!

Mama Lorna said...

I have to agree with all of the above. CLEANING TOILETS??? I don't even like doing my own. Yes, you should take you own rubber gloves. That is a smart decision.
Hey I have a question completely nothing to do with cleaning toilets, but how do I get other peoples blogs on my blog front page so people that look at mine can also look at yours or Patti's, etc?

Ruth said...

Hey, that is pretty cheap, but I agree with Redheads (oh, and Max, who actually left a comment!!) that you should have been told in the beginning that this is what you would be helping with...cause then you could of have your own gloves!!

Nikkie said...

I would not have been amused either. You are totally right, kids should be having fun at that age. There's plenty of time for school during those 13 long years.

Looney Mom said...

That's nuts! Sorry. I can barely stand to clean my own toilets so I know what you mean! And time sure does fly!

Ruth said...

yah! u go girl!

Heidi said...

UGH! How GROSS! I haven't dealt with the preschool thing yet, but It'll be my turn in less than a couple of years! Thanks for the heads up!