NOTE's TO SELF.... Are You Listening???

I think it might be working, although it is still too soon to tell! Hailey is in bed 1 hour early tonight and pretty bummed that she is the only one. She got 20 minutes for being late to bed last night, 20 minutes for arguing with me about eating breakfast and 20 minutes for having another yelling match before she left for school! I was so frazzed by the time they left for school! She has the ability to really wear me out! After they left I had my quiet time with my notebook pen and Bible and I started praying about my frustration levels with Hailey and I felt the Lord telling me that "she just wants to be heard, she doesn't feel she is." wow.......ok Lord so how do I hear her when I all I hear is high pitch Beaker (from Muppet Show) noises and stomping feet????? I think/feel what I need to do is do something I have seen on Suppernanny and Nanny 9.1.1. get down on her level take her hands in mine and get her to make eye contact and repeat back what she is trying to say. So I am going to work on that. I haven't had any issues with her since she got back from school so that is good and now of course she is in bed.

I also am struggling with Morgan. She stayed home from school today sick. She called me to get her from school yesterday and I didn't. Sometimes I think she is faking it. Sometimes I know she is faking it. She keeps coming up to me to check if she has a fever, she didn't. I don't hear any coughing from her until she gets close to the bottom of the stairs!! hmmmmmm I find it frustrating. I know that we have just been thru a lot and I have been fighting a cold too so I am not saying she doesn't feel anything, just not enough to stay home from school in my books. BUT I let her today 1. honestly? just to get her to stop whining..... I know, I am weak!!! 2. cuz I realize if she is starting to get sick then maybe I should let her rest 3. I didn't have the strength to force her. Already today though I have caught her eating downstairs RIGHT after I told her no. Oh I forgot! ya whatever, then slamming of the doors when I don't believe her. Seriously..... the drama! Then she gets all sorry and huggy but not just wanting a hug but to hang on me.....that is so draining to me. So what to do? I put her to bed early tonight too, 1. cuz she stayed home sick that means to bed early and 2 cuz she didn't listen. They really seem to not like this going to bed early thing so you got to know I am using it baby!!

I also had to talk to Emily today about watching out for her little sister on the bus!! she assumed that Hailey saw her get up to get off the bus (coming home) and Hailey didn't!!! so..... she had to get off at the next stop! thankfully my neighbor was there before me and saw what happened and had her sons and Emily go run to the next block to get Hailey off before she drove away any further! so NOTE TO SELF...... if Morgan is not on the bus I have to be waiting to get them off! I thought Emily could handle it but ya guess not! I know it is really not her responsibility but I know her and she is definitely old enough to make sure her little sister knows when to get off!!

and another NOTE TO SELF...........do NOT pick at zits on face right before going to sign kids up for preschool and activities....it only aggravates them and then you have to reapply makeup to now opened flesh wound which does not help poor picked zit to heal!! and btw.....what the heck is up with me getting zits at 32??? huh??? what is up with that??!!! it is not good for a picker to get zits.....cuz I pick and pop and ya gross I know.

and last NOTE TO SELF... for now... don't try any more clothes on at the mall until you have lost the 10 pounds you gained adding to the other 20 you already had to loose unless you want to run home depressed and eat a chocolate bar!!! not a good idea!!! I hate all this weight crap ...... but that is another post!

9 comments:

MugwumpMom said...

That's an excellent idea about assuring H that she is heard. It's one of the first things they teach in conflict resolution...stay calm and repeat back what you heard them say...absolutely!

As for the rest of it..and the M being sick thing...you're on your own there kiddo. When my kids said they were sick, I let them stay home, sans TV, VCR, computer etc..if you're sick, you're in bed...I'd take the modem away lest they be tempted.

Enjoy Wednesday

Ruth said...

Another thing I have seen on Supernanny was the kids can leave notes in a box or bowl of somekind, then the mom or dad (whoever they feel was not hearing them) would sit down with them and their notes everyday. Don't know if that would work for me, but...and I totally hear you on the weight thing. I hate trying on new clothes, I usually leave the store feeling really bad about myself. One day I will be able to do it though!!

Nikkie said...

I agree with you about not trying on clothes at the mall. It seems no matter how much weight I lose I still don't like what I see. I think I may have to work on that!

redheads said...

I am right there with all you guys in the weight department... only I will sometimes go to places where I know they make the clothes a little bigger so I can get a smaller size and feel good about that part. As for the kids I have had the same problem with my oldest... I have to work with him to talk to me about his problems rather then storing them up and then exploding. Good ideas from Ruth as well I might have to try that.

Morning Glory said...

I'm sorry the kids are troubling right now. Maybe they're struggling with being new in a new place and they just don't know how to express it properly. I hope things settle down for you soon.

mom of 2 said...

Oh...the zits...me too!!! I'm 32 and I still get zits and I'm a picker too...not a good combination!!

I have some of those same issues with my daughter. She can be such a drama queen at times and it drives me batty!! I very rarely let them stay home from school. They have to be vomiting or have a fever and if they do stay home from school they have to lay there all day...I'm so mean!!! lol

Mary Anne said...

Oh my, what a post. I can't completely relate, since I don't have kids (not married either), but I just can't wait til I can be in your shoes... 4 kids, chaos (crazy, I know, but that's just part of having kids, so I expect/somewhat-look-forward to it)... I want kids so badly, but it's not even close to that time. God has plans for me now, while I'm single and young and totally depending on Him because I don't know what the heck is in my future.

Yellow Mama said...

Hey, I do the same thing with little man. Arguing gets 15 minutes earlier to bed, backtalking the same and so on. It does work...at least for now!

Amber said...

I would have been the queen of faking sick if my mom didn't drag us off to the doctor EVERY FRICKIN' TIME. Blast that socialized medicine....