Everything works out together for good......

Yesterday could have been a very very bad day.....it had all the signs and the stress was beginning to explode............but you will see that Everything worked together for good!!!!

let me explain:

First - Morgan called me from school, crying. Her so-called friend N, who has been her friend since gr 5, told the teacher that Morgan was cheating on her test, which she wasn't, the teacher asked her and believed her, thankfully. She was so upset and just not understanding why this was happening. Why N didn't want to be her friend anymore? I talked to her about it and together we decided to have her write N a letter asking her what was going on and get to the bottom of it. I told her that if she wanted too we wouldn't car pool with them anymore. It was up to her. I hung up the phone feeling like she was going to be able to handle this.

After we dropped N and her brother off at their house after school, she told me what N's response had been to her letter. N told her that "she can't be her friend when Jen is around because she is trying to be popular and she can't be seen talking to Morgan if Jen is there." at the beginning of the year Morgan wanted to hang out with Jen and N said no I don't like her and now well you can imagine that N told Jen that it was Morgan who didn't want to hang out with her and not N.....are you still following me here???? I asked Morgan what she thought of that response and she said "pretty pathetic". Ya I agree but I would have used a much stronger description than that. I let her know what I thought of it!!! ya!!! she knew I was angry for her, that's for sure. That was the same excuse she used for lying to the teacher about her cheating too. Trying to be popular.

Later at dinner J and I talked to her about girls who are "trying to popular", we told her those are the girls who usually find themselves getting into trouble. She doesn't want to be friends with anyone "trying to be popular". J started telling her that she has SO much to offer. That she is fun and outgoing, pretty and smart and people will want to be her friend. She started crying, it moved her to hear her dad say all these important wonderful what every girl wants to hear from her daddy encouragements!!!! It was great!!!!

Second - my van broke down right around the corner from our house. It just died........ it looks like the fuel pump is gone...........really this van is not worth putting any more $$$$ into. So the stress was really high. I called my BIL, Dwayne, who owns a mechanic shop. He said oh man just get that thing fixed and sell it as fast as you can. Well, we don't have the $$ right at this moment to get it fixed, or the $$ to rent another vehicle until it gets fixed. I told him this. He said well we are at the dealership right now buying a brand new van. Do you want to borrow our jeep until you get this all resolved? I am like oh man really? that would be great. He said it is for sale too.

To make a long conversation short, we decided to cash in some RRSP's and mutual funds to buy the jeep and pay for the van to get fixed. we may have to get a temporary loan which we didn't want but I can't cash all my RRSP's until next Feb...... then we will sell the van and with doing all this we will be able to do the carpets in the house and replace the fence as well. The jeep only seats 5 but we have his truck that seats 6, so when we do need to drive all together we can just take his truck. We only really drive all together to go to church so this really isn't a big deal.

Third - because my new jeep only seats 5, I can no longer car pool with N and her brother. This saves Morgan from having to say she doesn't want too and me from confronting her mom about what is going on cuz I know her and I know it would go NO where. I don't want to make things worse for my baby girl then it has too.

So all in all.....everything worked together for good.......

side note: the herbal cleanse I am on is called, "Wild Rose.....Herbal D-Tox", you can get it at the health food store. I paid $30.00 for it. It is a 12 day program. This is the caption for it on the box

"Supporting the body's systems of elimination is an essential cornerstone to maintaining a healthy body. Toxicities tend to accumulate in the liver, colon, kidneys and lymphatic system. The Wild Rose Herbal D-Tox has been clinically tested to provide a complete detoxification of these systems. By following the enclosed recommended Meal Plan and taking the herbal formulas provided, the Herbal D-Tox program helps to keep a healthy balance of assimilation and elimination.
Whether to stay in good health, to clear a congested system, or to use after over-consumption, a detoxification program can be an integral part of your continued health. For many, a D-tox is the beginning of a new lifestyle, and a time for breaking unwanted habits."

I am finding that it is working......my but is actually getting smaller....miracle of all miracle's!!!! Last night was a bit rough for me though. I haven't been drinking enough water and with all the uh hem....elimination.....I got a bit dehydrated and felt a bit sick.....I was on the toilet about 10 times before it all settled down and I could go to sleep!!! So DRINK LOTS OF WATER with this!!!! the 4th day is always a bit rough though as a lot of the toxins are finally leaving your system. I believe it is worth it, when you can feel the toxins leaving your body ............... you know you are doing a good thing and then the weight loss becomes more of a bonus then the main goal!!!

let me know if you decide to do it too!!!


Update:I just got home from picking Morgan up from school. More crap was happening and I think she is so stressed out that she needs a break this afternoon. I did make it clear that this cannot happen all the time or her grades will be affected. I really think I will be changing schools next year at this point anyways, I do have to pray some more about it.

check out Pajama's blog today.......it is about bullying too.

9 comments:

Renee said...

WOW . . that was an eventful day, but like you said, it all kind of came together in the end.
Don't you love when that happens?

MugwumpMom said...

kudo's to you and J for how you dealt with it...you are soo right - Morgan hearing that from J must have been so awesome for her!! And thanks for the info on the cleanse.

Anonymous said...

Whats happening to Morgan is exactly what my girl is going through now. So don't feel all alone as sad as these situations are very common. Usually in time the popular girls are ignored or shown to be fakes as the "less popular" girls mature.

Nice new wheels. M.D.

JeepGirl said...

Sorry to hear about the bully issue. My daughter really only had a couple issues when she walked home from school. It was a couple trouble makers, years older. We live in a small town so we got a hold of the problem and took care of it right away. I've never had a girl on girl bully issue. Hope you can make things better. I wish you luck.
Congrats !!! Way to go on the cleaning program. Sounds like you found a good product.
Happy birthday to faith - looks like everyone had fun.
Cool - your driving a JEEP !!!

Patti said...

Yah, it's a tough call to try to walk the line between encouraging her stand up in the middle of hard situations, and yet protecting her from being thrashed by others at the same time. You guys will do an amazing job. I totally believe in you and J.

Ruth said...

I am happy everything has worked out for now. It is still an awful thing to go through but I know you are doing a great job handling it.

mommyof4 said...

It is good you don't have to take that girl to school anymore! Poor Morgan:( I am still in A lot of Drama here too! I think Homeschooling more and more for all my kids. It is good things came together for you:) Thank God school is almost over!!!

holli said...

I'm going to check out the detox stuff and the bullying blog when I have a free sec.. I just wanted to check up on you.

I'm glad everything worked out okay. You're so good at picking out the positives!!

Girls are so much more complex. Sometimes that's a good thing, sometimes not!

Wave's Word said...

I applaud you both. Your daughter is learning that she is the kings child and deserves true and truthful friendship. She is thinking for herself and choosing her path in life. It is hard when you are following another path than a friend. She is way ahead of alot of people.