I hope that my rant didn't scare anybody off yesterday.....I really needed to vent! I just wanted to clarify that I do really love my daughter......I can see sparkles of hope of a good friendship developing between us. I also know that it is more important for me to be her mom then her friend....but my hope is that when she is older she can see me as more than just her mom. I view my mom like that. We are SO close and I love shopping with her and just hanging out with her. I so want my girls to have that with me one day too.
This morning she sneaked some make up on. We were not allowed to wear makeup till we were 13......why 13? I don't know....maybe that is the magical make up age?? I don't know.....she put a little bit of mascara on and a touch of a cream eyeshadow....she actually did a good job! not like her self eyebrow plucking job.... yeesh....not so great!!! I hope she won't attempt to do that again either!! I have to get my camera fixed and take a good close up of that!! those are memories you don't want to forget!!! her best friend at school is allowed to wear makeup....she said most of the 12 year old girls are.......again I don't like being swayed by what "others" are doing....yet I know how much you don't want to be too different either! oh man does this get easier????? everyone tells me 15 is the worst year! and I think wow, it get's tougher than this??
I would love to hear when you let your daughters wear make-up or if you have any thoughts on any of this!!!
We did sign the form and let her participate in the sex ed class. Thank you all for your input. We will ask her some specific questions afterwards and talk to her all about it. They sent home an outline and I don't think it will be as bad as I first imagined it would be, after all these are grade 6 students!! having said that though, I know that today's worldly standards are not the same as when I was in grade 6. When I was in grade 6, Footloose, had just come out and we were not allowed to watch it. We were barely allowed to even go to the movie theatre's. It is amazing how much swearing and nudity there is on prime time!! as early as 5 pm it is not safe to let the girls change the channels. I have blocked a few stations because it didn't seem to matter what time of day it was, there was filth on tv.
It feels like today it is more scary to raise our kids then it was with us. We would play outside for hours with no walkie talkies or cell phones, in the forest or ravines and come home when the sun started to set. Today I don't even let my kids play out in the front yard unless the oldest is with them or there is a whole crew of kids out there. When we first moved here the kids were all playing out front and I was checking thru the window on them every few minutes and I saw this strange guy talking to them. He had no shirt on and was holding a beer ( it was like 1pm) so I made like I had to prune my roses out front and stayed out there with them. I hadn't been out there long when I heard my name being called and this "weirdo" was walking across the lawn to me. Turns out I went to private school with him from grade 7-10! he was actually one of my boyfriends!!! I was totally shocked to see him.......small world.... He is kind of a strange guy now but was safe to be with all these kids. sorry bunny trail but I think it all still fits! I think you just never know!
oops just checked the clock and I have to do a whole bunch of running around for J this morning!
time really gets away when you are rambling on and on