SEX ED 101

I guess it is that time of my daughter's life where the public school system is wanting to prepare her for the big wonderful world of sex. I didn't know if we should allow her to sit in the class or not. She just turned 12 for crying out loud and is only in grade 6. Yes I know kids are starting to have sex younger these days and I know the argument about protection and on and on..... just wasn't quite prepared for the notice that came home.

J and I both instinctively were like "no way" and then I said well what if some of the kids in the class come and tell her some non-facts about the whole topic and she gets some bizarre ideas. In a perfect world she would come and innocently tell us what these so called friends had told her and we could straighten it all out......ya we don't live in a perfect world!! she isn't the best at telling me things and well we have had some serious issues about secrecy. oh what to do what to do.

My mom figures it being a conservative type school we shouldn't be too worried. It still is a government funded school though and all government programs are in effect. I don't like the idea of being forced to talk about stuff with my kids! the sheet that came home said if we opt out of allowing our child to participate in the class/discussion, then we must ensure that we teach the material to them ourselves. We are quite open in this house and being that she has newly become a woman in a physical sense ...Definitely not emotionally yet!!... and ya well we have been walked in on during ....you know!!....and recently she told me that our walls are thinner than we thought and we have been giving her some interesting ahhhhhh let's call it...... white noise....... so anywoo...... I don't think it is anything she NEEDS to hear from the school and yet don't want her to feel like she is different because she can't take the class. Not that I really care about being different , I just can understand from her perspective of being one of the few that have to do an alternate class while the rest are getting uh hem...educated by our government....

Her closest friend at school is going and her mom said it is pretty tame(she had a son go thru it 2 years ago)....so why the big fuss on my part???.....maybe I am just not ready for her to be ready to hear such things...and from someone else!! maybe I am not ready to fully realize what stage she is at?? maybe I am right in trying to protect her for just a little bit longer??

what do you think? and what have you decided regarding school/government sex education talks?

Comments

Faith said…
It is so hard to get into all of those issues (sex) with your kids. They never seem old enough. Maybe you could have some alone time with her and tell her all about it on your terms/with your belief system. It would an option, maybe?!
Ruth said…
Wow, I remember in our church they had a sex ed class that the girls could sign up for. We got in more trouble in that class then elsewhere!!

I don't know, hard choice. I remember learning about it in school and it wasn't that bad. I am not sure what it is like now. Oh how times have changed.
Shash said…
I don't remember Mom and Dad talking to us about it at all just to say, "Don't do it". I think we need to be open with our kids and teach and talk about the why's more but then again my oldest is 7 so I'm years away from getting into details..... yuck.
momyblogR said…
I haven't decided anything yet....mine are still pretty young. However, based on what your friends has told you and them hearing it from an instructor and not a student...I think that may be better. Who knows.....:(
Patti said…
For me I would probably send my daughter. I remember how akward the whole pre-teen/teen years are, and if there is any way that I can help my child to not feel different without compromiseing my values, then I will try and do so. I hated the fact that sex seemed so taboo and was not talked about. It made it seem dirty and not good(somthing to be secretive about). I believe that God intended it to be exactly the opposite. I have already talked with my girls about sex at their understanding level. By the time they are 12, I expect that we would have the talk. I'd rather be talking openly about it by then to have the dialogue going, rather than have to be explaining that what they heard at school or from their friends is not exactly how it really happens.

This is just my opinion. I hope that you are able to come to a decision with something that brings you peace.
cara said…
we had this class when i was in grade 7 and my parents wouldn't let me go. i was the only one in the class in that situation and so i got to go sit with the secretaries. i was not cool. i still have the note my mom wrote me telling me she hoped i would understand when i had children of my own, blah, blah, blah. and then she proceeded to give me a james dobson book that we were supposed to discuss chapter by chapter. yeah, right. i just read the one chapter on sex and my mother never followed up with me about it.
i guess i'm saying, whatever you decide, just makes sure she gets some correct information, whether from you and j or a teacher, although i would probably want to read the curriculum the school teaches in case you need to counter it. i'm glad i have a lot of years before i have to really think about this. although knowing henri our children will probably know just about everything there is know about sex :) no, not really. he does have his limits. really.

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